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What's the deal with self-esteem?

26 April 2018

Self-esteem is highly important in our lives and low self-esteem is all too common in many teens and children. We talk to Australian youth and parenting advice experts ReachOut for some tips and insights on how to support the children and teens in our lives.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is how we see, think and feel about ourselves. So, when we talk about someone having a healthy self-esteem, we mean someone who generally feels pretty good about themselves and their abilities.

It doesn’t mean the person is overly happy or super-confident all the time. It's just that we know they're doing the best they can and can bounce back when things don’t go their way.

By the time we reach adulthood, we're well aware of self-esteem and what it means, but for kids growing up, self-esteem takes time to understand, recognise and build.

How to build up self-esteem

Building up self-esteem in children and teenagers is important because it helps them try new things, take healthy risks and solve problems. For example, someone with high self-esteem might be more confident in joining a new team, making new friends and being more outgoing.

Having a good sense of self-esteem can help you in many ways. Here are a few things to think about.

  • You feel good about yourself and your accomplishments.
  • You have and show pride in the things you do well.
  • You feel that it's worth trying to improve on things that don’t come naturally to you.
  • You do what you believe to be right, even if it’s unpopular.
  • You're willing to take risks.
  • You admit to mistakes and learn from them.
  • You accept compliments graciously.

Read more: Ways to Improve Your Self-esteem

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ReachOut is Australia's leading online health website for young people and their parents. Working with registered counsellors, psychologists and mental health professionals ReachOut provides online self-help tools that are used by over 1.5 million Australians each year. A valuable resource for many parents, teens and young adults.

If your child, or anyone you know is having issues with self-esteem, confidence or mental or physical health, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800.

This content includes the views and opinions of a third-party, and does not necessarily reflect the views of Suncorp. Information is intended to be of a general nature only and any advice has been prepared without taking into account any person's particular objectives, personal situation or needs.

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