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TEAM GIRLS

Those two girls Lise and Sarah on building super-power confidence

14 May 2020

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Suncorp has collaborated on this article with our friends at Business Chicks Australia’s largest and most influential community for women. Whether they’re running their own show, surrounded by others in an office, or just missing a sense of connection and support, Business Chicks is all about giving women the tools they need to propel themselves and their businesses forward.

In collaboration with our friends at Business Chicks, Sarah Wills and Lise Carlaw Radio Breakfast Hosts, share their reflections on developing confidence as a teenager. 

Being a teenager is one of the hardest phases we go through in our lives – the emotional rollercoasters, the changing bodies and pressure from society, as well as pressure (on occasion) from close family and friends. It’s important to build up a sense of confidence in teenagers, especially for teenage girls, who can often bear the brunt of pressure when striving to be a good daughter, sibling, friend and student.

There are so many reasons why having a confident teenager is important. It’s good for their mental health, their sense of resilience, and their likelihood to take up new sports, skills and hobbies – and stick with them.

However, instilling a confident attitude and lifestyle is a little easier said than done. It can take a few different approaches to help your daughter, so we spoke to Sarah and Lise to find out their tips.

The reason why confidence is important to them

Sarah:

“I’ve always been my own person. Always.”

Lise:

“Here’s what I know for sure. My confidence is my super-power.”

Instill a support system

Teenagers can be fragile – as they grow up physically from kids to adults, they may need an extra helping hand when it comes to figuring it all out mentally. Sarah and Lise encourage a strong sense of support, noting that this helped them on their path:

Sarah:

“First, a safe and happy family life. Even now at 39, it’s a comfort to know if I stuff-up, they’ll love and support me. Second, a sense of humour – teasing, heckling, and laughing was our love language… this has been an absolute blessing when it comes to self-confidence.”

Lise:

“I had a pack. My parents, my older sister, my grandparents, my uncle, my very best friends. The extrinsic forces in my life that told me I counted. That my contributions were valid. That I could. Ever-present with their positive encouragement. Never praise for the sake of blowing smoke. All shining examples of what hard work and backing yourself can yield.”

Encouraging words from a family member can do a world of good for a teenager’s mental wellbeing, regardless of how well they’ve performed. 

Sarah and Lise as teens.

Let them explore their interests:

As parents, we often think we know what our kids are interested in, and what hobbies they like, or have lost interest in. It’s important to listen to their perspective and discuss why they feel a certain way, so you can help give guidance.  

For example, 46% of teenage girls give up on team sports by 17 because they have lost confidence – talking them through their reasons could help reframe their perspective and get back on winning team.

Read the original interview with Lise and Sarah.

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If your child, or anyone you know is having issues with self-esteem, confidence or mental or physical health, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800.

This content includes the views and opinions of a third-party, and does not necessarily reflect the views of Suncorp. Information is intended to be of a general nature only and any advice has been prepared without taking into account any person's particular objectives, personal situation or needs.

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