5 tips parents can give their kids to make new friends
Regardless of whether you’re outgoing or shy, meeting new people can be scary. Kids, especially in their teenage years, can tend to hang out with the same crowd because it feels comfortable and familiar, and helps them avoid the 'hassle' of meeting new people.
But what if they're joining a new team, going to camp, or their situation changes and they need to make new friends either at school or in the neighbourhood? Whatever the reason, it can be a stressful time, which is completely understandable.
Meeting new people is something everyone goes through, so it’s always good to have a few tricks up your sleeve to make it all a bit easier. Here are 5 tips to making new friends to share with your child, in no particular order.
1. Listen and ask questions
Listening to others shows that you care about what someone is saying and are interested in them. Make eye contact while they are speaking and follow up with a couple of questions. If all goes well, the conversation will flow nicely. If not, it's okay to try again.
2. Laugh and smile
Smiling puts people at ease. When you smile, other kids feel like you're friendly and easy to talk to. Don’t forget: they might be feeling just as nervous about making friends as you do, so when you smile it helps them to feel more comfortable. Plus, laughing is the best medicine you can give your body. It makes you less tense and helps you loosen up and feel more relaxed in potentially stressful situations, such as when meeting new people.
3. Give a compliment
Have you ever received a compliment? Feels good, right? Giving a compliment to someone naturally gives them an ego boost and they appreciate what you have to say. Try going up to someone and complimenting them on their shoes or a new haircut. This approach works as a great conversation starter, and you can keep the dialogue flowing by following up with some questions.
4. Look up from your phone
If you’re constantly gazing at your phone and distracted by text messages or social media, it can make people think that you’re unavailable and not interested in talking to them. Take a break, look up and spend a little time getting to know the people around you.
5. Remember, there is no ‘I’ in ‘team’
You can't help but meet people when you join a team or a club. Having common ground with others immediately gives you something to talk about. You're bound to find people who are interested in some of the same things as you, no matter what they may be. Try to make sure your child isn’t too disappointed if their decision to meet new people doesn’t result in heaps of new friends straight away. Making a network of friends is quite a slow process, but if they’re patient, they’ll hopefully end up with a great crew of people around them.
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